“We create meanings from our unconscious interpretation of early events, and then we forge our present experiences from the meaning we’ve created. This subtle fear holds us back from saying what’s on our heart, from sharing our wisdom, from taking risks, from going outside of our comfort zones.Īnd all of this halts growth - not only our personal own growth, but the growth of humanity as well. When we perceive that it's not safe to be ourselves, to express ourselves, to be vulnerable, then our actions reflect this belief. Self-doubt, hesitation, or overwhelm creep in even though we want nothing more than to fully shine our light and help more people. All of this leads to a subtle feeling of powerlessness that permeates our day-to-day life. Instead of feeling compassion when you experience pain, you feel blame, shame, or guilt. If others hurt you (mentally or physically) - especially at a young age where you haven't built up your resilience yet - you may also lose trust in yourself. You start to lose trust in the goodness of human beings. If you're continually exposed to a negative, threatening or dangerous environment where you don’t feel safe, your brain makes the association that the world is not a safe place. Think of this as a shortcut that helps your brain react faster the next time a similar event occurs. Your brain then creates an association between that event and your perception of yourself and others. HOW CONFIDENCE AND SELF-TRUST ERODE AS A RESULT OF TRAUMAĮvery emotionally charged event that occurs in your life becomes engrained in your neural networks. Ultimately, everything inside our minds affects the actions we take and the habits we form - whether positive or negative. Gabor Maté does a great job of explaining how our past experiences shape our view of ourselves and the world. (The next online broadcast is scheduled for July 28 - Aug 1.)ĭr. These are some questions I’ve been contemplating since watching the Wisdom of Trauma movie which portrays how trauma impacts our daily behaviors and habits. “Healing is not about getting rid of or forgetting trauma but expanding the space with and for the client to make space for their humanity.Does trauma impact how we show up in our business or as leaders? Could it unconsciously prevent us from positively impacting more people through the work we're doing? “When we get ill we can look at the illness like at an enemy and get ready to fight or we can look at it and say: it is here now so what is the teaching?” “Diseases are normal responses to abnormal circumstances and what is normal in this society is most often actually insane.” “By meeting people where they are at and treating them as human beings and not trying to change them actually opens up the possibility of transformation for them.” “The first issue is not why the addiction but why the pain.” “Maybe if we stop judging our failures we will realise they were the best possible response at the time and stop reenacting them.” They get traumatised because they are ALONE with the HURT” “Children don’t get traumatised because they are hurt. Here are some of my favourite quotes, but images are powerful too, so do watch it if you can. I watched the movie twice, I cried, I soaked in all the points and magnificent, courageous stories and took notes. If you listen to some of the talks added to the documentary page – especially the one with Sará King, Angel Acosta and Daniel Siegel you will learn more about the importance of that healing for current and future generations. His therapeutic work is deep and carrying and so even the way the movie is presented leads to one simple conclusion: we are all humans, we all suffer (especially as vulnerable children) and if we separate ourselves from the trauma (reaction of our bodies to stress) we have the opportunity to heal. It is very difficult to disagree with his points, to be honest. His insightful approach to a deep, meaningful exploration of our childhood trauma makes perfect sense to me and I really wonder – why are we not doing it yet? While living in Hungary I have experienced a very holistic approach to health and learned to always search for the roots of my illnesses, states of feeling unwell.ĭr Maté wrote a few significant books shedding light on addiction and trauma, and in this documentary, he explains his approach clearly – the roots, the context and the impact of his work. I have lived in Hungary for a decade so Dr Maté’s personal journey is very close to my heart. I would like to take this opportunity to share my personal experience of watching it, my learning and a few favourite quotes of mine. “The Wisdom of Trauma” documentary featuring the life, work and impact of the work of Dr Gabor Maté, a significant voice in trauma and addiction therapy, is currently available for preview online for a small donation (until this Thursday).
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